As a teacher of tantra and a sexual healer I have often been surprised at how many women still have sexual wounding. These may be from sexual abuse, rape or even just the first time they had sex, but generally what many of these women don’t know is that there is a very ancient tantric technique to not only heal those wounds but to awaken and bring us unlimited amounts of pleasure. This technique is known as Sacred Spot Massage.
You may be familiar with the term G-spot. This area lies within a woman’s womb or yoni (sacred space) and is named after Dr. Grafenburg, who thought he discovered it. But what you may not know is that Dr. Grafenburg did not discover this spot at all. It had been written about in sacred Tantric texts over five thousand years ago.
Tantrics have always known that within a woman lies two pleasure energy poles, the clitoris and the sacred spot. But it wasn’t until Masters and Johnson did their ground-breaking study of women’s sexuality here in the U.S., that the clitoris became known as a primary source of women’s orgasm. In fact their study resulted in the belief that vaginal orgasm was a myth and that all orgasm’s came from the same source, the clitoris.
But the Tantrics were several thousand years ahead of this research and discovered the second pole of pleasure, the Sacred Spot.
What these sacred text’s teach us is that the Sacred Spot holds the memory of a woman’s sexual history. Just like the fascia of your muscles retain memory from prior accidents or injuries, a woman’s Sacred Spot also retains images, thought forms and feelings regarding the sexual experiences a woman has had over the course of her life and, if you believe in past lives, of these as well.
This energetic access spot within the yoni can produce the most profound pleasure, both physically and on a psychic level, as well as being a storing receptacle for all manner of hurtful things relating to sexuality. In this regard the sacred spot’s negative charge can sometimes be shocking. (The Art of Conscious Loving)
So if a woman has had a lot of painful physical and emotional sexual experiences her first contact with this spot may be unpleasant or painful. It may take a number of sessions before the pain goes away or lessens. But if she perseveres she will begin to release this negative charge that she has held in her body and replace it with increasing amounts of pleasure. Often what occurs is discomfort, sometimes a feeling of pressure, then as your partner continues to massage the spot, you may have an emotional release, cry, or get angry. Then you might feel like laughing, and the pain is gone and pleasure is now what you feel. Memories that have been deeply buried can come forth, emotional feelings that were suppressed arise and a healing takes place.
I can speak from my own experience that this is so. I have had a great deal of Sacred Spot work done on myself and have experienced all of the above. What was important for me was to be given full permission by my partner to allow whatever needed to be expressed to come up. I have personally healed a great deal of my own sexual wounding through the Sacred Spot Massage and highly recommend learning how to give one to your partner.
I would just like to say that giving a Sacred Spot Massage is truly a healing experience both for the giver and the receiver. Therefore it is very important that men see this as an opportunity to become your partner’s healer. Women you can see this as a way to become closer with your beloved as they will be holding space for you in a very loving and sacred way. This type of healing session is not primarily a lovemaking session but more a session devoted to the woman’s healing process. Therefore make that your focus and let go of any other agenda about lovemaking.
There is quite a bit to learn in giving a Tantric Sacred Spot Massage and so I recommend that you see a video on it Freeing the Female Sexual Orgasm or read a few books on it such as Tantra the Art of Conscious Loving, by Charles and Carolyn Muir and the Art of Sexual Ecstasy by Margot Anand. You can also work with a private tantra coach like myself or anyone else that you desire. I have trained many couples in giving Sacred Spot Massage. I would also like to add that some women prefer to work with other women in this type of work. If so I am available for private sessions just check my bio to contact me.